[C++] Grouper produce a wrong num_groups when set are_cols_in_encoding_order to false

### Describe the bug, including details regarding any error messages, version, and platform.

Bug found from blew comment:
https://github.com/apache/arrow/pull/41036#discussion_r1564538418

It's bug in grouper when set are_cols_in_encoding_order=false in below codes:
https://github.com/apache/arrow/blob/2979d69a05cb16012da06baaa801a1849e9110ce/cpp/src/arrow/compute/row/grouper.cc#L582

It will cause the num_group different with `are_cols_in_encoding_order=true` condition.

The encoder will sort columns by default, when we only set this compare args to false, the `CompareColumnsToRows`'s input `impl_ptr->encoder_.batch_all_cols(), impl_ptr->rows_,` are all sorted, but use the incorrect column_offset to access compared column:
https://github.com/apache/arrow/blob/2979d69a05cb16012da06baaa801a1849e9110ce/cpp/src/arrow/compute/row/compare_internal.cc#L366-L369

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