[C++][Python][FlightRPC] libgrpc problem in new pyarrow version (between 12.0.1 to 13.0.0)

### Describe the bug, including details regarding any error messages, version, and platform.

Hi,

Recently when creating conda env with new pyarrow, I get the following error when trying to connect to a grpc server (using native grpc or using arrowflight which uses grpc under the hood)

DNS resolution failed for server-address:8815: C-ares status is not ARES_SUCCESS qtype=A name=server-address is_balancer=0: Could not contact DNS servers. gRPC client debug context: UNKNOWN:DNS resolution failed for server-address.us-east-1.elb.amazonaws.com:8815: C-ares status is not ARES_SUCCESS qtype=A name=server-address is_balancer=0: Could not contact DNS servers {grpc_status:14, created_time:"2023-10-16T15:42:25.182012209+03:00"}. Client context: IOError: Server never sent a data message. Detail: Internal

This does not occur when I install any pyarrow version <= 12.0.0
I think the problem might be introduced with libgrpc=1.58.1, but I'm not sure.

Would appreciate help
Thanks

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