Builder interface for arrow_ipc::FileWriter

**Is your feature request related to a problem or challenge? Please describe what you are trying to do.**

While looking into https://github.com/apache/arrow-datafusion/issues/8635, I noticed that arrow_ipc::FileWriter does not appear to have a builder interface for configuring write related options. It would be convenient to have a similar interface to parquet WriterProperties::builder() or csv WriterBuilder that enables mutating specific options.

**Describe the solution you'd like**
arrow_ipc::FileWriterBuilder that enables configuring options with a similar interface for other writers in arrow-rs

**Describe alternatives you've considered**
The existing interface does enable setting options via IpcWriteOptions::try_new and IpcWriteOptions::try_with_compression, so this is more for convenience / consistency than adding new functionality.

**Additional context**

Start by locating arrow_ipc::FileWriter and IpcWriteOptions, then compare their APIs with parquet WriterProperties::builder() and csv WriterBuilder. The work is done when a FileWriterBuilder provides consistent configuration for the existing write options and tests verify the builder behavior without removing the current IpcWriteOptions interfaces.

Written by the indexing model from the issue text.