[Go] Replace buffer builders with utilities developed for compute kernels

### Describe the enhancement requested

Replace `bufBuilder` and `bufferBuilder` with the utilities (by moving them) used by compute kernels [1].

The existing builders have confusing APIs and don't take advantage of Go generics like [1] does.

The list and list-view builders should use these buffer builders directly instead of using numeric *array* builders to build their numeric buffers.

[1] https://github.com/apache/arrow/blob/main/go/arrow/compute/internal/kernels/helpers.go#L886

### Component(s)

Go