Add failed compaction counts for specific rfiles.

**Is your feature request related to a problem? Please describe.**
When using external compactions, there is a possibility that a compaction job could contain an rfile that exceeds the resources assigned to a compactor.
If that compactor dies with an OOM issue, there exists no mechanism to indicate that that specific rfile should be moved to a different compaction queue that uses larger compactors.

**Describe the solution you'd like**
When the compaction-coordinator detected a failed compaction job, it should add an errored rfile entry with a count.
At a specific failure threshold, these files should be returned as a "large" compaction criteria.

**Describe alternatives you've considered**
The compaction-coordinator could have knowledge of which queue has "larger" compactor resources and auto submit these compactions.

**Additional context**
conditional mutations are probably needed for this to work

Start by locating the compaction-coordinator entry point and its failed compaction job handling. Read how rfile state is stored and whether conditional mutations are already used; done should include recording per-rfile failure counts and returning files that reach the chosen threshold as "large" compaction criteria.

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