`AIOKafkaProducer` appears to hang forever if Kafka is down for `send_and_wait` and `stop()`

**Describe the bug**
If the Kafka server is down, `send()`ing a message and awaiting the results has two effects:
1) A log is sent every `retry_backoff_ms`
* This is pretty spammy at the default 100ms
2) The `await` hangs apparently forever

If the result is `asyncio.wait_for()`'d with a timeout so that the thread can eventually continue, and then `stop()` is called on the producer:
* The logs continue to be sent
* The `stop()` hangs apparently forever

**Expected behaviour**
I would expect that both awaiting the result of a `send()` call (or awaiting a `send_and_wait()` call) and a `stop()` call eventually time out.

**Environment (please complete the following information):**
- aiokafka version: 0.12.0
- Kafka Broker version: Tested with 3.9.0 and 4.0.0
- Other information: n/a

**Reproducible example**
```python
"""
Test what happens when kafka is down and the notifier sends a message.
"""

import asyncio
from aiokafka import AIOKafkaProducer
import traceback

async def main():
###
# Kafka is running here
###
kp = AIOKafkaProducer(
bootstrap_servers=f"localhost:9092",
enable_idempotence=True,
acks='all',
request_timeout_ms=5000,
retry_backoff_ms=1000
)
await kp.start()
print("sending 1st message")
future = await kp.send("mytopic", b"foo1")
print("done")
await future

###
# Kafka is stopped here
###
print("sending 2nd message")
future = await kp.send("mytopic", b"foo2")
print("done")
try:
await asyncio.wait_for(future, 6)
except TimeoutError as e:
traceback.print_exception(e)
print("stopping client")
await kp.stop()
print('done"')

if __name__ == "__main__":
asyncio.run(main())
```

The above results in the output:
```
sending 1st message
Topic mytopic not found in cluster metadata
done
sending 2nd message
done
Unable connect to node with id 1: [Errno 111] Connect call failed ('127.0.0.1', 54301)
Got error produce response: NodeNotReadyError: Attempt to send a request to node which is not ready (node id 1).
Unable connect to node with id 1: [Errno 111] Connect call failed ('127.0.0.1', 54301)
Unable to update metadata from [1]
Unable connect to node with id 1: [Errno 111] Connect call failed ('127.0.0.1', 54301)
Got error produce response: NodeNotReadyError: Attempt to send a request to node which is not ready (node id 1).
Unable connect to node with id 1: [Errno 111] Connect call failed ('127.0.0.1', 54301)
Unable to update metadata from [1]
Unable connect to node with id 1: [Errno 111] Connect call failed ('127.0.0.1', 54301)
Got error produce response: NodeNotReadyError: Attempt to send a request to node which is not ready (node id 1).
Unable connect to node with id 1: [Errno 111] Connect call failed ('127.0.0.1', 54301)
Unable to update metadata from [1]
Unable connect to node with id 1: [Errno 111] Connect call failed ('127.0.0.1', 54301)
Got error produce response: NodeNotReadyError: Attempt to send a request to node which is not ready (node id 1).
Unable connect to node with id 1: [Errno 111] Connect call failed ('127.0.0.1', 54301)
Unable to update metadata from [1]
Unable connect to node with id 1: [Errno 111] Connect call failed ('127.0.0.1', 54301)
Got error produce response: NodeNotReadyError: Attempt to send a request to node which is not ready (node id 1).
Unable connect to node with id 1: [Errno 111] Connect call failed ('127.0.0.1', 54301)
Unable to update metadata from [1]
Unable connect to node with id 1: [Errno 111] Connect call failed ('127.0.0.1', 54301)
Got error produce response: NodeNotReadyError: Attempt to send a request to node which is not ready (node id 1).
Unable connect to node with id 1: [Errno 111] Connect call failed ('127.0.0.1', 54301)
Unable to update metadata from [1]
Traceback (most recent call last):
File "/usr/lib/python3.11/asyncio/tasks.py", line 490, in wait_for
return fut.result()
^^^^^^^^^^^^
asyncio.exceptions.CancelledError

The above exception was the direct cause of the following exception:

Traceback (most recent call last):
File "/home//test_manual/aiokafka_test.py", line 36, in main
await asyncio.wait_for(future, 6)
File "/usr/lib/python3.11/asyncio/tasks.py", line 492, in wait_for
raise exceptions.TimeoutError() from exc
TimeoutError
stopping client
Unable connect to node with id 1: [Errno 111] Connect call failed ('127.0.0.1', 54301)
Got error produce response: NodeNotReadyError: Attempt to send a request to node which is not ready (node id 1).
Unable connect to node with id 1: [Errno 111] Connect call failed ('127.0.0.1', 54301)
Unable to update metadata from [1]
Unable connect to node with id 1: [Errno 111] Connect call failed ('127.0.0.1', 54301)
Got error produce response: NodeNotReadyError: Attempt to send a request to node which is not ready (node id 1).
Unable connect to node with id 1: [Errno 111] Connect call failed ('127.0.0.1', 54301)

*** continues seemingly forever ***
```