Popover/Tooltip: incorrect arrow position when using triggerRef

### Provide a general summary of the issue here

When using triggerRef the arrow position is calculated incorrectly, the border width is not taken into account and the arrow is slightly shifted.

### 🤔 Expected Behavior?

the arrow position should be centered

### 😯 Current Behavior

the arrow is shifted by the width of the border

### 💁 Possible Solution

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### 🔦 Context

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### 🖥️ Steps to Reproduce

https://codesandbox.io/p/devbox/damp-fog-pz32ln

these two screenshots show the differences in the arrow position depending on the border

### Version

react-aria-components: 1.12.2

### What browsers are you seeing the problem on?

Chrome

### If other, please specify.

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### What operating system are you using?

macOS

### 🧢 Your Company/Team

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### 🕷 Tracking Issue

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