Inconsistent Focus Behavior with Lists

### Provide a general summary of the issue here

The issue can be demonstrated in the Storybook - ListView - default.

- Click into "focus before" and tab into the ListView. The first item is focused. Now tab into "focus after" and shift-tab back. Again, the first item is focused.
- Now make sure the last active item ("Adobe Illustrator") is focused in the List, and do the above steps again. When you shift-tab back, the checkbox is focused, not the item.

### 🤔 Expected Behavior?

The item should be focused in the second scenario, not the checkbox.

### 😯 Current Behavior

[Storybook link](http://localhost:9003/?path=/story/listview--default&providerSwitcher-express=false&strict=true)

### 💁 Possible Solution

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### 🔦 Context

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### 🖥️ Steps to Reproduce

See summary. Also happens [in the docs](https://react-spectrum.adobe.com/react-aria/GridList.html#example)

### Version

main branch

### What browsers are you seeing the problem on?

Firefox, Chrome, Microsoft Edge

### If other, please specify.

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### What operating system are you using?

windows

### 🧢 Your Company/Team

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