Menu/Select pick immediately when Popover overlaps its Trigger

# 🐛 Bug Report

When there is not enough space for the popover to be placed above/below its trigger, it will overlap the trigger. This causes the popover to be immediately closed and whatever item is underneath the pointer will be selected.

## 🤔 Expected Behavior

Items should not automatically be selected.

## 😯 Current Behavior


## 💁 Possible Solution

The issue is caused by conflicting event handlers. The popover opens on `onPointerDown` and the selection event for both, the menu and select (listbox), happens on `onPointerUp`. One possible solution might be to move the selection to another event, e.g. `onPointerDown`.

**A temporary fix is the following:**

```js
let { menuItemProps } = useMenuItem(
{ key: item.key },
state,
ref
);

let { onPointerUp, ...rest } = menuItemProps;

return (

{item.rendered}
{isSelected && ✅}

);
```

## 💻 Code Sample

**Codesandbox Playground:** https://codesandbox.io/s/shy-paper-fi7w0f?file=/src/App.js

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## 🌍 Your Environment

| Software | Version(s) |
| ---------------- | ---------- |
| react-aria | 3.22 |
| react-stately | 3.20 |
| Browser | Chrome 108.0.5359.124
| Operating System | MacOS Ventura 13.0.1