Chisel client keeps getting connection refused when connecting to exitnode

Hi
I'm having trouble using chisel operator in my kuber cluster. i used
`kubectl apply -k https://github.com/FyraLabs/chisel-operator`
to install it in cluster.

My exit node is a VPS of mine which hosts the chisel server and works fine. i even tried `chisel client` from my local to verify that the chisel server is good to go, and it is.

I applied a simple hello world pod in cluster for testing the operator functionality. I then applied the loadbalancer svc and operator created a pod for chisel client. but i keep getting this log from this pod:

```
2024/12/31 12:36:59 client: Connecting to ws://{myvpsip}:9090
2024/12/31 12:36:59 client: Connection error: dial tcp {myvpsip}:9090: connect: connection refused
2024/12/31 12:36:59 client: Retrying in 100ms...
2024/12/31 12:36:59 client: Connection error: dial tcp {myvpsip}:9090: connect: connection refused (Attempt: 1/unlimited)
2024/12/31 12:36:59 client: Retrying in 200ms...
2024/12/31 12:36:59 client: Connection error: dial tcp {myvpsip}:9090: connect: connection refused (Attempt: 2/unlimited)
2024/12/31 12:36:59 client: Retrying in 400ms...
2024/12/31 12:37:00 client: Connection error: dial tcp {myvpsip}:9090: connect: connection refused (Attempt: 3/unlimited)
2024/12/31 12:37:00 client: Retrying in 800ms...
```

I tried running chisel client command without using the operator and inside a random pod in cluster, and it worked. but with the operator, i keep getting this error.

this is my chisel server config:
```
[Unit]
Description=Chisel Tunnel
Wants=network-online.target
After=network-online.target
StartLimitIntervalSec=0

[Install]
WantedBy=multi-user.target

[Service]
Restart=always
RestartSec=1
User=root

ExecStart=/usr/local/bin/chisel server --port=9090 --reverse --auth 'admin:admin' -v
```

and these are exitnode and svc manifest:
```
apiVersion: chisel-operator.io/v1
kind: ExitNode
metadata:
name: my-exit-node
namespace: chisel-operator-system
spec:
auth: exit-node-secret
default_route: false
host: {myvpsip}
port: 9090

---
apiVersion: v1
kind: Service
metadata:
name: hello-world
namespace: chisel-operator-system
annotations:
chisel-operator.io/exit-node-name: "my-exit-node"
spec:
selector:
app: hello-world
ports:
- port: 80
targetPort: 80
type: LoadBalancer

```

Can someone help me ?