Fix refined meshes with ghosts

At the moment, the handling of refinement of ghosted meshes is a mess. It should be easy to optionally include ghost cells in a refined mesh **without re-partitioning** by using `compute_destination_ranks(...)` in `graph/partitioners.cpp`.

This is compounded by `transfer_facet_meshtag(...)` and `transfer_cells_meshtag(...)` no supporting ghosted meshes, or re-partitioned refined meshes. Both should be relatively easy to support. This leads to unexpected 'user experiences'.

It could help a lot if `mesh::create_mesh` returned the destination ranks of the input cells.