ESMF-aware threading is currently broken

### Brief summary of bug
Running with ESMF-aware threading, needed for when some components are threaded and others aren't, is currently broken.

### General bug information

**CESM version you are using:**
Any cesm3-alpha/beta

**Machine you are using:**
Derecho

**Have you modified the code? (If so, please point us to you changes.):**
No

### Details of bug
Multiple bugs across several components; I'm just creating this here as a tracker:
https://github.com/ESMCI/ccs_config_cesm/issues/300
https://github.com/ESMCI/cime/issues/5049
https://github.com/ESCOMP/CMEPS/issues/701
https://github.com/ESCOMP/CAM/issues/1650